Termination In Surrogacy

Termination in Surrogacy

There is a big misconception of this termination in surrogacy.  I guess we can thank the media for that.  While there are the few negative stories and the negative publicity that is with everything.  Let us not forget the amazing, touching, heart bursting stories that keep the rest of us driven for an industry that is truly rewarding and amazing.

I’ve had some girls recently who signed up to become carriers thinking that Intended Parents might just change their mind and decide to terminate a pregnancy for no reason.  Education in surrogacy is vital to understanding where an Intended Parent is coming from.  First of all Intended Parents (IPs) are not turning to surrogacy just by chance.  This is a process that is thought out and planned for financially.  It doesn’t happen overnight.  It can take months and even years before an IP decides to begin their surrogate journey.  They don’t have the luxury others have who decide to have a baby and then boom, they are pregnant.  If you go back and read our article on why people use a gestational carrier you will find it is for many different reasons.

With that said parents aren’t going to put close to and sometimes more than $100,000 into having a child unless they didn’t want this child with everything in them.  I don’t know your background but let me be real for a moment and share that the child I adopted took a LOT out of my household.  I wouldn’t have gone to the ends of the earth to make it happen if I didn’t want her with every breath in me.

The reason we discuss termination in surrogacy is for the unlikely chance that a genetic abnormality is found during pregnancy.  This is tough and not something we take lightly.  Nobody wants to have this conversation.  Nobody wants to have to make this heart-wrenching decision.  However; when we are dealing with a surrogacy arrangement and not your everyday “we’re pregnant” situation we have to have these very difficult conversations from the beginning.  If this bridge has to be crossed it’s imperative we find out from the beginning that everyone is on the same page.

As a surrogate this is the unfortunate subject that turns many away.  Termination in surrogacy is the toughest part about being a carrier of someone else’s child.  It is something that needs to be thought about and determined before a journey begins and also before a match can be made.

Before Becoming A Surrogate

What To Consider Before Becoming A Surrogate

If you are considering becoming a surrogate and don’t know where to start let’s first consider the basic criteria important for any carrier.  Typically you need to be between the ages of 21-40 however some states do not have a law against a surrogate being 19 or 20.  This law is based on where the surrogate is located and gives birth.  There are a few unfriendly states for surrogacy so you also need to not be located in a state were surrogacy is illegal altogether no matter what the age.

Being physically fit is not a requirement however the BMI is a factor considered for surrogacy.  Clinics are held to a standard by the FDA and nobody wants to put a person in danger or risk for complications.  Therefore a BMI over 30 is not favorable.  If you don’t know what your BMI is, there are plenty of calculators online to help you determine if you just search BMI calculator and type in your height and weight. It is important when considering becoming a carrier for someone’s child that you are healthy which includes being a NON-smoker and being FREE of sexually transmitted diseases.

The last few items in the basic criteria are not relying on government assistance and being able to pass a background check.  Here’s the thing about IVF; it is not a 100% sure bet you will become pregnant after an embryo transfer.  Intended Parents are taking a risk and do not need a surrogate who is putting all her eggs in one basket as far as an income source.  They need someone stable who can support themselves and aren’t fully relying on the surrogacy journey for their income.  No surrogate should look to surrogacy as their main source of income or as their means to support their family.  This will only add unneeded stress to all parties.  A clean background check is just a given as you are being entrusted by Intended Parents with the life of their child.

Take into consideration that while all items above might be met, all carriers must pass a psychological evaluation as well.  This is vital in this process as it is not only important the surrogate be stable financially and able to provide for herself but MOST importantly she must be mentally stable to endure a surrogate journey.

Being able to travel in some cases is important.  You might not be matched with a local couple that will require you to travel for medical clearance as well as embryo transfer.  It’s important that a surrogate have family or friend support in order to do this.  Your flexibility will be vital to a successful journey as there are many moving pieces that all must fit together in order to have the best chances of success for the IPs.

Last but certainly not least is a surrogate’s accountability and reliability plays a HUGE part in a successful journey.  It is absolutely imperative that a carrier understand what all is expected of her prior to making the commitment to become a surrogate mom.  People are counting on you to do your part and be physically, emotionally and mentally ready to endure all that is needed for the best of success.  No matter who you work with it is extremely important that you have realistic expectations set from the beginning.

We hope this helps clarify a few things on what to consider before becoming a surrogate so that you will hopefully have a very successful journey.  As always we wish you the absolute BEST of success in your unique life-changing journey!

Compensation From Surrogacy

Compensation From Surrogacy

We want to be clear here with this post – the number one reason most surro-moms choose to be surrogates is not money. It’s to give and experience the joy another family has when they realize they can finally make their dreams of having a family a reality.

However, since we covered ways to save for surrogacy last month, we wanted to cover the opposite side: what you can do with the money you receive from being a surrogate.

After all, the average surrogate is paid $20,000 to $40,000. That’s a lot of money that can be put toward the financial goals you may have.

Let’s take a look at 4 ways you might use the compensation you receive from surrogacy.

1) Invest for the Future

Are you currently putting money toward any retirement plans you have? If not, you might want to consider using a percentage of your compensation to invest in your future.

Your options could include a workplace retirement plan such as a 401(k), an Individual Retirement Account (IRA) that anyone can open, or perhaps a regular investment account you have with your spouse.

Investing for the future doesn’t have to mean retirement, either. If you have children of your own (as many surrogates do), have you thought about helping your child fund their college expenses? You could open a custodial plan for them and invest the money there as well.

2) Invest in Yourself

Are you a stay-at-home-mom who wants to get back into the workforce after your surrogacy is complete? You might want to think about investing in yourself in the form of education.

You don’t necessarily need to go back to college to get a degree, but you could look into getting certifications or taking courses online. Just about every topic is available to study – even film, photography, graphic design, and animation to name a few.

Or, maybe you’ve discovered you love a certain hobby and want to monetize it. Think about educating yourself on running a home-based business. You could buy the supplies you need to open a shop on Etsy or sell locally. If spending time with family while still earning an income is a priority for you, this is a great way to do it.

3) Fund Your Savings Goals

It’s important to think about your larger savings goals – the ones that might seem impossible to complete.

For example, saving for a down payment on a house isn’t easy. It’s recommended to have 20% of a home’s purchase price saved up. If you’re looking at a house that costs $250,000, you’re looking at a $50,000 down payment. That can be overwhelming to stomach.

$20,000 to $40,000 can go a long way toward making your own dreams a reality, especially if you want to buy a house, need a more reliable vehicle for your family, or just want the financial security to stay at home with your kids.

4) Give Back

If you’re like most surrogates, you didn’t enter into surrogacy with money on your mind. You did it because you wanted to take part in creating a miracle.

That’s why we mention giving back – if you don’t need the money, consider donating it to your favorite charitable cause. You’ve already made a great difference in the world, why not continue to spread the love?

When you receive a single large payment, whether it be from an inheritance, a bonus, or surrogacy, you should look at the big picture. It’s tempting to think about all the things you could buy with that amount of money, but it’s responsible to think about how to use it wisely!

Again, we want to emphasize that money isn’t the end goal surrogates should be working toward. All of our surrogate mothers are overjoyed when they can help make dreams come true for couples who want children. In fact, most of them would do it for free. We are simply giving surrogates guidance on how they might choose to spend their compensation.

Start Saving For Surrogacy

Are you interested in surrogacy, but concerned about how you will afford it? If you’re overwhelmed by the cost of gestational surrogacy, the best thing you can do is start small with the basics.

Saving for surrogacy is similar to saving up for a down payment on a home, so if you’ve done that, you’re already familiar with the process! You can use these 3 simple steps to help you get on the right financial track and start saving for surrogacy today.

Step 1: Make Saving For Surrogacy a Priority

This step sounds simple, and in theory, it is. But it actually requires a complete shift in mindset if you’re not used to actively saving for goals.

When you make a conscious decision to save instead of spend, you’ll find yourself less tempted to buy things that aren’t necessities. You should realize that every time you spend on something (for example, clothing, dinner out, or a movie ticket), that’s money being taken away from your goal of saving for surrogacy.

You can make saving even more of a priority with the next step!

Step 2: Create a Spending Plan

Some people shy away at the thought of being restricted with their money, but hear us out; creating a spending plan will allow you to make more room for what you really want in life.

It’s not about deprivation, but about spending according to your values.

You obviously have a desire to start a family, and children aren’t cheap (even without surrogacy!). Getting your spending in order now will end up saving you money down the road, as you’ll be used to saving and spending on what you value.

When you make saving a priority, you’re essentially saying that spending on non-necessities comes second. Of course, you still need to pay for things such as your housing, gas, and insurance, but you should always be looking for ways to cut costs so you can save more.

All you need to do to get started is list out your fixed expenses and variable expenses. Go through recent bank/credit card statements to make sure you have all the categories you need to keep track of, and then enter in the amount you spend.

You can keep track of this in a spreadsheet, or use a free service like Mint.com to help. Creating a spending plan will allow you to see where your money is going so you can make changes if you’re currently spending more than you earn.

Step 3: Look for Ways to Earn More

There are plenty of ways to earn more money if you keep your mind focused on it. Besides getting a new job that pays more, here are a few (easier) ideas on how you can increase your earnings:

  • Ask for a raise at work if you’re due for one
  • Work as much overtime as your schedule allows for
  • Get a part-time or seasonal job
  • Start a side hustle with skills you already have (babysitting, petsitting, designing websites, writing, etc.)
  • Use cashback sites like Ebates or Swagbucks
  • Only for those without consumer debt! – Earn credit card rewards with your regular spending and redeem your points as cash

Saving Doesn’t Have to Be Hard

Don’t make the mistake of thinking surrogacy is out of your price range. Just like anything in life, if you want it badly enough, you’ll find a way to get it.

Saving money sometimes requires making sacrifices, but doesn’t parenting require some degree of sacrifice? Start saving for surrogacy and making progress today!

What Is Gestational Surrogacy

What Is Gestational Surrogacy

When women receive the difficult news that they will be unable to have a child in some cases their doctor may suggest gestational surrogacy. The common response to this suggestion is often, “What is gestational surrogacy?”

Gestational surrogacy is when an egg is taken from the intended mother and inseminated by the intended father and then the fertilized egg is implanted in and carried until birth by the gestational surrogate.  Sometimes anonymous donor egg and or sperm can be used to create the embryo as well.

There are many reasons that a woman may need a gestational surrogate to carry her child until birth. The most common reason is that the biological mother may have uterine complications precluding her from being able to carry a child. In this case the answer to “What is gestational surrogacy?” is a relief for many couples who are physically unable to have a child.

You may still be asking yourself, “What is gestational surrogacy and what are the benefits of becoming a surrogate?” There are many benefits to becoming a gestational surrogate. The most obvious benefit is that a surrogate has the opportunity to give the gift of a biological child to a family that otherwise would be unable to have a biological child.

There is also a financial component that is extremely beneficial to the gestational surrogate. Carrying out a gestational surrogacy can lead to an income of tens of thousands of dollars for the woman who decides to become a surrogate. So along with bringing so much joy to the family and helping to bring a child into the world, the gestational surrogate also can make her own life more financially comfortable.

Once a woman decides to carry out a gestational surrogacy her family and friends may ask her, “What is gestational surrogacy?” While it is a process that is becoming more common and more accepted some people still have questions on the process. An easy way for some families to think about it is that a couple that is physically unable to have children have a child but then they need a third party to carry the child until the day of their birth.

Whether or not the surrogate stays involved in the child’s life is a decision the family typically makes. In most cases the family and surrogate remain friends. There is often a special bond between the child and the surrogate because the surrogate took a significant role in bringing the child into the world. The parents of the child will be forever grateful.

If you would like more information about becoming a surrogate mother or about surrogacy in general, please contact Surrogates Across America.

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BMI In Surrogacy

BMI in Surrogacy

BMI in Surrogacy is such an aggravation for many women who so badly want to be a surrogate but don’t fit into the requirements of having a BMI at 30 or less. Agencies get blamed and lashed out at for this but the truth is it is the discretion of the clinic. Nobody wants the liability of approving a surrogate whose BMI is over the limit. The higher BMI puts the surrogate at an increased risk for Gestational Diabetes, high blood pressure, pre-eclampsia, and a host of other complications that wouldn’t benefit the baby or the surrogate. All parties involved are not willing to take that sort of risk and put someone’s life endanger.

With that said, I’ve had several requests and input from other surrogate moms including myself who needed to shed weight in a healthy way. We are by ALL means not medical doctors so speaking with a medical doctor IS advised before beginning ANY health program or restrictive diet.

We’ve read numerous emails, articles, books, and listened to testimonials from other surrogate moms about what works and what does not. Weight is something many struggle with and if you struggle it can be a HUGE frustration that many times even leads to depression. Even for those that have no desire to become a surrogate but maybe need or want to lose weight for other reasons, we hope you find this beneficial and helpful.

Many people in our country struggle with food allergies or sensitivities they didn’t know they had. Some may never notice but their weight could be the indicator that they have an allergy or intolerance to a particular food/drink. The best way to find out if you suffer from food allergies is to eliminate it and see if anything changes. Above everything you read, you MUST learn to read your own body and LISTEN to it! It will actually speak to you if you pay attention. Below is a list of 6 items to avoid completely. Try it for 4 weeks and see if you notice a difference in either the way you feel, your skin or your weight.

Foods to avoid completely for those concerned with BMI in Surrogacy







Further explanation and food suggestions:

Dairy (this does NOT include eggs! Eggs are NOT a dairy! Don’t get confused. It’s a chicken! Eat as MANY as you want but cook in olive oil, not butter and don’t add cheese!!)

Crunchy Snacks – (ie, chips, pretzels, goldfish, snacks in general that are crispy.) Snacks you can have are UNLIMITED amounts of fresh fruit with NO sugar added. Unlimited amounts of nuts of any kind as long as you have no nut allergy

Bread – – Unless you are milling the wheat and baking flour tortillas with oil water and salt, avoid altogether for now and add back slowly once desired weight is attained. Everything in moderation remember.

PASTA (eat as much brown rice as you want but NO pasta at all until desired weight is attained and then slowly introduce back into diet eating in moderation only.)

When cooking brown rice, add enough water (1/2 cup more than what you would use for white rice. Do NOT buy instant! Cook longer than white rice usually by adding at least 20 minutes but monitor closely. Make sure you cook it all the way and don’t use butter. Either flavor with oil, salt and pepper or you can add cooked egg, onions, and soy sauce for basic fried rice. If you like fried rice, you can pretty much eat it every night for dinner adding broiled chicken, mushrooms, onions, fried eggs, soy sauce, any vegetables you want, etc.

What you can eat…. As many vegetables and fruit as you want. When flavoring veggies just don’t use dairy (no butter.) Use olive oil, salt, pepper, garlic or any other seasonings but no dressings. Make sure all fruit is washed well and eaten without additives or sugar flavoring of any kind. Fruits should be eaten in the natural state and no canned fruits should be eaten. Veggies should be fresh or frozen. Little to NO canned unless desperate and it’s all you have. You can eat meats but they should not be processed. Eat as much in the natural state as you can. Seasoning and grilling, broiling or baking in the oven is best. If you have a large amount of weight to lose cut out Sausage at first and add as the weight comes off. Stick to lean meats and fish like tilapia, salmon or ANY type of fish that you can season and broil, bake or cook without breading. Don’t eat ANYTHING fried. If you have an intolerance to meat, eat fish and if you can’t eat fish you could have dry beans. These have to be soaked and cooked properly. All that can be researched via the internet.

We hope this helps those trying to shed pounds and those who are above the guidelines for BMI in surrogacy. It has been proven effective for a number of people we know and hope it continues to be proven affective for others. Drink only water, unsweetened tea and coffee with no sweeteners. You can have juice IF you use a juicer or drink Simply orange that has no sugar added and is only fresh squeezed oranges.

If you would like more information about becoming a surrogate mother or about surrogacy in general, please contact Surrogates Across America.

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5 Reasons Why People Consider Gestational Surrogacy

5 Reasons Why People Consider Gestational Surrogacy

Have you wondered who actually benefits from gestational surrogacy, or why people look to it as a solution to pregnancy?

Unfortunately, many couples (and singles) can’t have children on their own. Whether due to age, infertility, medical complications, or sexual preferences in partners, quite a few people turn to gestational surrogacy to provide them with the family they’ve always dreamed of.

We’re going to cover 5 reasons why couples (and individuals) consider gestational surrogacy to give you a better idea of who can benefit from it.

Couples with Medical Complications – The most common reason couples choose gestational surrogacy

Sadly, there are many medical conditions that make pregnancy difficult or impossible. In other cases, being pregnant can put the woman’s or unborn child’s life at risk. Gestational surrogacy eliminates some of that risk and worry as surrogates must pass a health exam in order to qualify.

Couples Suffering from Infertility

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, infertility affects around 11% of women ages 15 to 44. There is a rapid decrease every year past the age of 30 for a woman. It’s very common challenge that many couples face, and it can be an extremely emotional process to go through.

When infertility treatments don’t help, couples may choose gestational surrogacy, as there’s a higher chance of pregnancy. If women experience trouble staying pregnant or becoming pregnant, then gestational surrogacy also makes sense.

Gay Couples

Another very common situation where gestational surrogacy is used is for gay couples who need a surrogate mother to carry their child. Sperm is typically used from one father in conjunction with an anonymous or known egg donor.

Additionally, surrogacy in the United States is a solution for international gay couples who aren’t given the option of surrogacy in their home country.

Single Males (and Females)

We’ve also seen cases where single males who are older decide they want a family. They can choose gestational surrogacy for the same basic reason as gay couples – they need the help of a surrogate to carry the baby, and they need an egg donor.

Gestational surrogacy makes it possible for these men to have a baby that is genetically tied to them. They can also maintain a close friendship with the surrogate mother as well.

Additionally, there are single females out there who have a strong desire to have children, but do not have (or choose not to have) a partner. They can choose to have a surrogate mother carry their children and use a sperm donor to make their ideal family a reality. In some cases singles can get discriminated against due to being single or based on age which disqualifies them from adoption but is not a disqualifying factor for surrogacy. Many people don’t realize that like children who are available to be adopted, there are also embryo available as well for adoption.

Older Couples

The Office on Women’s Health reports that 20% of women are having their first child at age 35 or later. Once you are past age 35, from a medical standpoint you’re of “advanced maternal age.” Your pregnancy can be risky and you simply aren’t as fertile as you were in your 20s.

A few of the reasons women have been delaying pregnancy include their career, their education, marrying later, and wanting to be financially secure.

Regardless of the reason, couples are finding one solution to pregnancy later in life to be gestational surrogacy. It carries less risk and chance of complications. Those that decide they want children later in life should be offered the opportunity to have them.

How You Can Benefit or Help

The main point of choosing gestational surrogacy is to have a child that’s genetically related to you. In all of these cases, the intended parents contribute their own eggs or sperm. While adoption is always an option, some individuals want children who are genetically their own. Gestational surrogacy offers them that option.

It’s a shame that there are so many people out there who want to have children, but can’t. But you can help! If you’re interested in helping to create a family for a couple who can’t conceive, then please reach out to us by filling out our application to become a surrogate mother.

Likewise, if you’re a couple looking for a consultant that has your best interests at heart, then please contact us. We want to help you have the family you’ve always wanted.

If you would like more information about becoming a surrogate mother or about surrogacy in general, please contact Surrogates Across America.

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Why Due Diligence Is Important In Surrogacy

Lately, the news has been covering stories of surrogacy ending badly. There have been many tragic, heartbreaking tales surfacing of surrogacies gone wrong. Babies are being abandoned or fought over, and families and friendships are being ruined.

However, as with the case of any news reports, the negativity is always going to outweigh the positivity. For that reason, we want to shine the light on how it’s possible to have an amazing surrogacy experience.

It all starts with due diligence. It’s no secret that surrogacy is not well-regulated in many foreign countries, and that attracts couples and individuals who otherwise wouldn’t be able to go through with surrogacy.

While we’re all for surrogacy being an option to those who need it, there are good ways and bad ways of going about the process. Let’s take a look at the right way to go about your surrogacy journey.

What Makes a Good Surrogacy Agency

Transparency and authenticity are extremely important when dealing with a surrogacy agency – especially when a precious life depends on it. No child should be subjected to abuse and neglect after being born.

Surrogates Across America aims to be transparent every step of the way. We never hide information from either party, we answer any questions you may have, and we seek to educate the individuals we help. We know that there’s a lot of misinformation out there when it comes to gestational surrogacy, and we want to make sure you’re properly informed!

Surrogacy requires tremendous effort on behalf of all parties involved. We only wish to see both parties happy and bursting with gratitude at the end of their journey together.

To ensure a smooth process, we have a thorough screening procedure in place. If you’re interested in applying to be a surrogate with us, you fill out an application, and then we review it.

If we think you’re a great candidate based off your application, we will email you a profile to fill out. Once that’s complete, we’ll then schedule an initial phone call with you to discuss your profile.

We do our absolute best in matching our surrogates with intended parents. The journey of surrogacy is a long and meaningful one – it’s essential that you’re paired up with those you can share the highs and lows with as well as fitting with your family dynamics and values.

Once a match is made, we have the surrogate and intended parents get on the phone or Skype with each other to make sure all are comfortable and in agreement on what will happen during the surrogacy arrangement, pregnancy and after.

This is where rules and regulations come into play. It’s not a fun topic to discuss, but should any complications arise during the pregnancy, there must be an agreement between both parties as to what actions should be taken in certain situations.

Unfortunately, no one likes to think of the worst happening, but in some cases, it does. That’s why it’s critical to discuss these issues beforehand.

Once an agreement is reached, the screening process goes a step further: we require that all individuals involved go through a criminal background check, a psychological evaluation, a medical evaluation, and we will request medical records to be reviewed by the perspective clinic involved. This is done for the safety and protection of both parties.

Don’t Take Shortcuts with Surrogacy

For the reasons listed above, we strongly urge intended parents and surrogates to go through a reputable third party. Finding someone online on a forum, or recruiting a friend, can lead to heartbreak. Yes, it works out favorably for some families, but others come to regret their decisions.

It’s upsetting to see so many stories circulating about surrogacy gone wrong when there are laws in place in many states (here in the US) for a reason. While we understand how much starting a family means to couples, cutting corners to make it happen often isn’t the best move.

If you’re thinking about gestational surrogacy, please don’t let these stories taint your view of the industry. We care deeply about all of our wonderful surrogate mothers who volunteer out of the goodness of their hearts to help create families, and we take great care in making sure our intended parents have the utmost faith and trust in us and their surrogates.

If you would like more information about becoming a surrogate mother or about surrogacy in general, please contact Surrogates Across America.

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5 Amazing Benefits of Becoming A Surrogate Mom

5 Amazing Benefits of Becoming a Surrogate Mom

Are you thinking of becoming a surrogate mom, but aren’t sure if it’s the right decision for you? We understand. While it’s incredible to help others by giving them the miracle of life, it’s not a decision that should be taken lightly by any woman.

The journey can be a long one, but it’s an extremely worthwhile and rewarding experience. That’s why we’ve decided to highlight some of the many benefits of becoming a surrogate mom.

Helping Others

What a surrogate receives from being involved in this amazing journey in helping someone become a parent is far and beyond what can be put into words. It doesn’t matter if it’s the barren woman they help bring this blessing to, a relative or friend who can’t carry due to medical conditions, or a same-sex couple who couldn’t become genetically tied to their child without a surrogate in place.

When the Intended Parents hear the first heartbeat at an ultrasound appointment, it’s a dream come true for the surrogate mom to see the expression of joy on their faces. When the parents finally get to hold their precious child in their arms, everyone in the room cries tears of joy.

The Intended Parents feel complete gratitude to the surrogate mother who made it possible for them, and the surrogate is overjoyed at seeing the family together.

There is true blessing in being able to give someone that gift. It’s truly a selfless act.

Being Pregnant Without the “Extra” Responsibility

If you are a woman who finds great joy in the actual pregnancy itself, but don’t necessarily want another addition to the family, surrogacy is a great way to have that experience again.

You get to go through being pregnant all over again, but at the end of the journey, you’ll be able to give an amazing gift to parents who otherwise wouldn’t have been able to have a family.

The Pay For Surrogate Mom

As if the act of giving weren’t enough in and of itself, surrogates are compensated well for their contribution. The monetary benefit has a large range – anywhere between $20,000 to $40,000.

Besides the pay, surrogates also gain the benefit of their health care being covered during the pregnancy if they don’t already have covereage. They must undergo a series of tests to ensure that they are good candidates for the process, and that their chances of having a healthy pregnancy are high.

It’s important to note that money isn’t the end-all, be-all of whether or not you should become a surrogate. Many surrogate mothers decide to embark on this journey for altruistic reasons; not monetary.

Support and Community

Surrogates Across America has built a wonderful community of surrogate moms. We fully believe in helping all of our surrogates through every step of the process, and you will never feel alone throughout this incredible journey.

From the first discussion between the Intended Parents and surrogate all the way to the birth, we make sure everyone involved is comfortable, happy, and excited for baby.

Giving Back

Along the same lines as helping couples grow their family, surrogacy is also an amazing way to give back. If you’ve had healthy pregnancies already, and want to help a couple who can’t conceive, then carrying for them is an enormous way to give back.

There are many women who make the decision to become surrogate mothers because they personally know someone who can’t conceive. They simply can’t sit on the sidelines and watch as their dream of having children is destroyed. Instead, surrogates volunteer their bodies and much more in order to make their dream a reality.

Becoming a surrogate mom means becoming a blessing for a couple who wants nothing more than to have a family. It’s another way of paying it forward.

If any of these reasons resonate with you, then think about applying to become a surrogate with us. The initial process is fairly straightforward and simple, and we would love to have you! We currently have  Intended Parents waiting for the right surrogate to come along. Find out today if that surrogate is you.

If you would like more information about becoming a surrogate mom or about surrogacy in general, please contact Surrogates Across America.

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A Friend Becomes A Gestational Carrier For A Family Desiring Another Child

gestational carrierJulia and Lee Newton faced one of their darkest moments when they realised they couldn’t have children without life-threatening complications.

Julia had her first child, a daughter named Emily, in 2007, but the pregnancy led to the development of an Rh incompatibility, which caused her body to create antibodies that would attack the blood of children she later conceived. She became pregnant in 2008 but lost the child at five months. She experienced the same in 2010 when she lost her second child, also at five months.

“It’s hard to say which was more painful but that [second loss] had an even bigger impact, just as far as despair,” Lee said. “You try to have a little hope but if you keep getting defeated, it feels like it’s running out.”

After medical tests and consultations, their doctor gave them sad news: they could continue to conceive, but future pregnancies would become not only life-threatening for the child, but more and more emotionally difficult to bear.

During those times, they moved back to their hometown. Soon after, Julia met Jessica Satterfield. The women became friends, often seeing their daughters together in preschool. And Jessica was there when Julia lost her second child, listening when her friend spoke about the difficulty of not being able to have more children.

“It just broke my heart,” Jessica said.

Then one day, when they were at a school event, Jessica looked across the room and saw Julia holding a baby for another mother. All she could think was that she was able to have children and all Julia wanted was to have another child. It was at that moment that Jessica got the thought in her mind that settled in her heart and wouldn’t go away. She thought about carrying a child full-term for the Newtons.

“When I saw Julia hold that baby, I just thought ‘that is all she wants in the world and can’t have it and that’s just not fair’,” Jessica said. “I didn’t want a baby but I knew how much she [did], and I thought maybe I could carry for them.”

She went home and started researching the possibility. She mentioned the idea to Julia and talked with her husband, Dr Robert Satterfield, who was supportive from the start.

“Just from a personal standpoint, it’s one of the most selfless acts you can do is to offer that,” said Robert, an orthopaedic surgeon. “I call it an adventure because it was not one thing, it was a whole long process. Even from a medical standpoint, it was a very interesting adventure.”

In early January 2013, Jessica talked with Julia in more detail and the decision was made.

The next several months were filled with medical tests, psychiatric evaluations and legal work to prepare for the road ahead. Lee and Julia were stunned and overwhelmed by the idea that came at a time when they were trying to decide how to have another child.

“How many women, especially in a small town – I don’t care where you are – how does that just happen?” Julia said. “It just doesn’t happen. We were just floored with overwhelming joy. It was like days we pondered on it and we just couldn’t believe it was happening.”

From Jessica’s standpoint, she just wanted to give the Newtons what they’d always wanted, without getting anything in return.

“My gift was seeing their joy after seeing all their heartache,” Jessica said. “It’s just been so wonderful to be a part of something positive when there’s so much negativity in the world.”

Instead of being called a surrogate mother, where the surrogate provides the egg, Jessica was a gestational carrier for the Newtons. A gestational carrier carries the embryo of the parents through in vitro fertilisation. The procedure took place on October 27, and without a hitch, the two embryos that were transferred to Jessica resulted in a successful pregnancy. In fact, she was carrying twins.

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