What Is Gestational Surrogacy

What Is Gestational Surrogacy

When women receive the difficult news that they will be unable to have a child in some cases their doctor may suggest gestational surrogacy. The common response to this suggestion is often, “What is gestational surrogacy?”

Gestational surrogacy is when an egg is taken from the intended mother and inseminated by the intended father and then the fertilized egg is implanted in and carried until birth by the gestational surrogate.  Sometimes anonymous donor egg and or sperm can be used to create the embryo as well.

There are many reasons that a woman may need a gestational surrogate to carry her child until birth. The most common reason is that the biological mother may have uterine complications precluding her from being able to carry a child. In this case the answer to “What is gestational surrogacy?” is a relief for many couples who are physically unable to have a child.

You may still be asking yourself, “What is gestational surrogacy and what are the benefits of becoming a surrogate?” There are many benefits to becoming a gestational surrogate. The most obvious benefit is that a surrogate has the opportunity to give the gift of a biological child to a family that otherwise would be unable to have a biological child.

There is also a financial component that is extremely beneficial to the gestational surrogate. Carrying out a gestational surrogacy can lead to an income of tens of thousands of dollars for the woman who decides to become a surrogate. So along with bringing so much joy to the family and helping to bring a child into the world, the gestational surrogate also can make her own life more financially comfortable.

Once a woman decides to carry out a gestational surrogacy her family and friends may ask her, “What is gestational surrogacy?” While it is a process that is becoming more common and more accepted some people still have questions on the process. An easy way for some families to think about it is that a couple that is physically unable to have children have a child but then they need a third party to carry the child until the day of their birth.

Whether or not the surrogate stays involved in the child’s life is a decision the family typically makes. In most cases the family and surrogate remain friends. There is often a special bond between the child and the surrogate because the surrogate took a significant role in bringing the child into the world. The parents of the child will be forever grateful.

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The Purpose Of A Gestational Surrogate

 

The Purpose of a Gestational Surrogate, and How You Can Become One

Have you ever wondered what is involved in the process of becoming a gestational surrogate, or how they’re different from traditional surrogates? If so, you’re not alone. The terms can be a little confusing!

We’re going to set the record straight for you today. Let’s walk through exactly what the process is for gestational surrogacy and how it differs from traditional surrogacy. This will also explain the purpose of a gestational surrogate and how you can become one.

Gestational Surrogate vs. Traditional Surrogate

Traditional surrogacy involves the surrogate being artificially inseminated with the father’s sperm, paired with her own egg. The surrogate is therefore the biological mother of the child.

Gestational surrogacy is different in that the surrogate is simply a carrier – they don’t have any biological ties with the child. The process involves in vitro fertilization, in which an egg and sperm from the intended parents is combined to form an embryo. The embryo is then transferred to the gestational surrogate.

The embryo can also contain a donor egg or donor sperm in certain cases, such as a single father/mother or gay couple wanting to start a family. Donor egg or sperm is also used in the event of a completely infertile couple, advanced maternal age or in a case where some genetic disorders want to be avoided.

The Purpose of Gestational Surrogates

Gestational surrogates help couples who are unable to conceive to start a family genetically related to them. Those interested in gestational surrogacy are typically couples where the woman is unable to give birth or conceive for medical reasons or advanced maternal age, gay couples wanting to have a biological tie, single men wanting a family, or single women unable to give birth.

There is a huge need for gestational surrogacy as infertility rates are rising. International couples also choose to go the surrogacy route in the US since the laws are more favorable and success rates are much higher than other countries.

Gestational surrogates are often referred to by intended parents as angels. They sacrifice months of their lives, and their bodies, in order to give them the gift of a child.

Reasons to Consider Becoming a Gestational Surrogate

First and foremost, the number one reason most women choose to become surrogates is because they want to help others. While gestational surrogates are compensated, money isn’t their primary motivation.

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A Friend Becomes A Gestational Carrier For A Family Desiring Another Child

gestational carrierJulia and Lee Newton faced one of their darkest moments when they realised they couldn’t have children without life-threatening complications.

Julia had her first child, a daughter named Emily, in 2007, but the pregnancy led to the development of an Rh incompatibility, which caused her body to create antibodies that would attack the blood of children she later conceived. She became pregnant in 2008 but lost the child at five months. She experienced the same in 2010 when she lost her second child, also at five months.

“It’s hard to say which was more painful but that [second loss] had an even bigger impact, just as far as despair,” Lee said. “You try to have a little hope but if you keep getting defeated, it feels like it’s running out.”

After medical tests and consultations, their doctor gave them sad news: they could continue to conceive, but future pregnancies would become not only life-threatening for the child, but more and more emotionally difficult to bear.

During those times, they moved back to their hometown. Soon after, Julia met Jessica Satterfield. The women became friends, often seeing their daughters together in preschool. And Jessica was there when Julia lost her second child, listening when her friend spoke about the difficulty of not being able to have more children.

“It just broke my heart,” Jessica said.

Then one day, when they were at a school event, Jessica looked across the room and saw Julia holding a baby for another mother. All she could think was that she was able to have children and all Julia wanted was to have another child. It was at that moment that Jessica got the thought in her mind that settled in her heart and wouldn’t go away. She thought about carrying a child full-term for the Newtons.

“When I saw Julia hold that baby, I just thought ‘that is all she wants in the world and can’t have it and that’s just not fair’,” Jessica said. “I didn’t want a baby but I knew how much she [did], and I thought maybe I could carry for them.”

She went home and started researching the possibility. She mentioned the idea to Julia and talked with her husband, Dr Robert Satterfield, who was supportive from the start.

“Just from a personal standpoint, it’s one of the most selfless acts you can do is to offer that,” said Robert, an orthopaedic surgeon. “I call it an adventure because it was not one thing, it was a whole long process. Even from a medical standpoint, it was a very interesting adventure.”

In early January 2013, Jessica talked with Julia in more detail and the decision was made.

The next several months were filled with medical tests, psychiatric evaluations and legal work to prepare for the road ahead. Lee and Julia were stunned and overwhelmed by the idea that came at a time when they were trying to decide how to have another child.

“How many women, especially in a small town – I don’t care where you are – how does that just happen?” Julia said. “It just doesn’t happen. We were just floored with overwhelming joy. It was like days we pondered on it and we just couldn’t believe it was happening.”

From Jessica’s standpoint, she just wanted to give the Newtons what they’d always wanted, without getting anything in return.

“My gift was seeing their joy after seeing all their heartache,” Jessica said. “It’s just been so wonderful to be a part of something positive when there’s so much negativity in the world.”

Instead of being called a surrogate mother, where the surrogate provides the egg, Jessica was a gestational carrier for the Newtons. A gestational carrier carries the embryo of the parents through in vitro fertilisation. The procedure took place on October 27, and without a hitch, the two embryos that were transferred to Jessica resulted in a successful pregnancy. In fact, she was carrying twins.

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A High Demand For Surrogate Mothers In The U.S.

Surrogate Mothers – Important Information to Consider

The need for Gestational Carriers or Surrogate Mothers grows as more individuals and couples seek to create families. Infertility is growing at alarming rates as women delay child bearing and as same sex couples explore surrogacy in order to secure the desire for biological children.

Demand for surrogate mothers in the US is also growing since gestational carriers are very desirable for international couples due to restrictive laws in other countries. The demand for carriers is highly prevalent in the US due to our relaxed laws in comparison to other countries.  Even certain states are friendlier than others.

Using a gestational carrier costs approximately $75,000, and despite this high cost of, GCs are still in great demand.

Achieving a surrogate pregnancy is truly a selfless and beautiful journey, especially when the surrogate mothers and intended parents are an ideal match professionally, personally and when all parties have like minded attitudes towards the pregnancy.

For GCs it is important to find the best agency or 3rd party coordinator to insure that you are well represented and that you have an advocate to help you through the surrogacy arrangement. We are a private entity that offers a unique one on one approach, giving the carriers a very personal touch to a  journey while acting as her advocate to ensure all things are done fairly and equitably.

If you are interested in learning more about being a Gestational Carrier, contact me today! I look forward to hearing from you.

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How Important Are The Husbands Of Surrogate Mothers?

surrogates husbandsAny guy who supports his wife through a pregnancy can expect a major reward: a baby. His baby. But what happens when that child actually belongs to someone else? One man share’s his family’s journey to help another couple have a baby and his wife’s brave choice to become a surrogate mother.

How could a man be okay with the idea of his wife carrying another man’s child? What sane, adoring husband would hold her hand through a pregnancy and delivery, all to make someone else a father? The questions dogged me as I picked up the phone to call Jeremy Wallace, a 35-year-old former Air Force staff sergeant who helped his wife fulfill her dream of becoming a surrogate mother. It was easier than I expected to find Jeremy and other husbands in his position: The number of men who’ve helped their wives give birth to children for other families, while certainly small, is growing. In 2008, there were 1,395 children born by gestational surrogacy (in which the woman carries the child, but is not the egg donor) in the United States. That’s nearly double the number from 2004, according to the Society for Assisted Reproductive Technology. And many surrogates are married.

 What Are Surrogate’s Husbands Like?

The husbands of these women tend to be middle-class, Midwestern fathers in their 30s, experts say. They are “confident and supportive,” says Elaine Gordon, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist who has worked with surrogates for over 20 years and wrote a book for children born through surrogacy, Mommy, Did I Grow in Your Tummy? John Weltman of Circle Surrogacy, an agency in Boston, goes one step further, describing these husbands as “some of the most remarkable men you will ever meet.”

Certainly, they are crucial to helping thousands of couples have children. No reputable agency will let a married woman become a surrogate unless her husband–who has to undergo psychological and financial screening–gives his written consent. His involvement is too important to the process for him to be anything less than fully on board, says Weltman: “I’ve heard extraordinary stories of men who have literally saved the day. He has to be in it.” There can be medical emergencies and months of bed rest, in addition to givens like the twice-daily hormone shots these guys have to inject into their wives before they even get pregnant.

How This Couple Met

My knee-jerk suspicions melted away the more I talked to Jeremy, who comes across as not only sane, but sincere and well-adjusted. With broad shoulders and a charming Southern drawl, he still has the steady demeanor of a soldier (he served in the Air Force for 10 years). Jeremy left military life in 2006, and since then, he’s worked at a variety of jobs, ultimately starting an appliance-repair business in San Antonio, where he lives with his wife, Dawn. They met when Dawn moved to Texas 16 years ago, and have been together ever since. It was a whirlwind romance, he tells me: They met in August, were engaged by Christmas, pregnant (surprise!) by January, and married in June. Today they have two daughters–Alexis, 14, and Rae-Lynn, 10–plus a niece (Amanda, 15) whom they adopted from Dawn’s brother. Clearly, the Wallaces believe in family.

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Infertility And Surrogacy – A Surrogate’s Tale

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“I walked away forever changed because I got to play a small part in changing someone else’s life for the better.”

My surrogate journey was simple. It was a calling. Something I felt in my very core I wanted to do. People think I’m crazy and that’s OK. I actually had a dream I delivered twins when I was going through an infertile time myself. When I awakened from the dream, I knew this was something I wanted to do. That day I began my journey.

The lady I worked with found me the perfect fit. I don’t put a lot of thought into things. I’m a go with the flow kind of person which I think makes for a good surrogate honestly. I began fantasizing about this woman who had yearned for a baby for a LONG time. I wanted to help her. That’s exactly what I got. This was a couple who for various reasons would be denied the ability to adopt. One reason was because of their age. Who are we to judge how old a parent should be? I was the incubator and helped bring their baby boy and baby girl into this world over 3 years ago. They are gorgeous, happy, and healthy. Their parents’ lives are complete. I walked away forever changed because I got to play a small part in changing someone else’s life for the better.

No, I didn’t do it for the money. I did it because I could relate to the struggle of infertility. I too had been there. You can’t imagine how difficult it is for those that can’t have a baby no matter how hard they try or were robbed of that pleasure due to an early hysterectomy or something unforeseen that rendered them unable to bear or carry their own child.

My blessing from my journey came 7 months later when I conceived my baby girl on my own after 13 years of infertility. Life is full circle. You get back what you put in!

 

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A Surrogate Mother Shares Her Perspective On Surrogacy

What is gestational surrogacy? Detailed information about Surrogate & Surrogate Pregnancy

surrogacyWritten by Ryley of That’s My Family Blog:

Today I am 7 weeks pregnant. Ultrasound pictures are held up with letter magnets on my fridge. My calendar is splattered with OB appointment reminders every week.

But this baby isn’t mine. This baby belongs to an AMAZING couple that I couldn’t love more.

I am a Gestational Carrier, a Surrogate Mom.

Who Are Surrogate Mothers?

There is a good chance that all you know of surrogates either came from the movie “Baby Mama” or from the recent “surrogate” scandal. What I want you to know most about surrogates is that we are real people: we’re moms, we work normal jobs, lead normal lives. There are a lot of different stories that pull women to surrogacy. For me, it was a best friend in high school who came out to me after we graduated. He was happy, but realized his orientation meant he would never have biological children. Without even thinking, my 17 year old self proclaimed “I’ll have babies for you!”

11 years later, I made the leap and joined a surrogacy agency that embodied all I wanted and needed to make this a positive experience for all involved. The agency matched me with a fantastic couple that will become parents in the Spring of 2012.

What Is Being A Surrogate Mother Like?

It sounds easy when I say it that way, sounds like a piece of cake. There is so much more that goes into it. There is the typical question everyone asks, “How can you just give your baby up?” First, this baby is in NO WAY my child. It will look drastically different than me and my family. It will not have my blood type, it was not made with any of my genetics. The process has been compared to long term babysitting. If your best friend asked you to watch their child for 9 months, you’d do it. You’d love that child for 9 months, tuck them into bed at night and kiss them on the head. You’d feed them and take care of them. When your friend came back you’d be SO happy to reunite them. Would you miss that child after you cared for them? YES, you would, but your heart would be so happy. I CANNOT wait to reunite this baby with its parents. I dream of it at night. I get teary eyed thinking about it. It’ll be the moment I’ve been waiting for…

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Learn the Details of Becoming a Surrogate Mother

surrogate mother and babyWhat is Surrogacy?

There are a few assisted reproduction techniques, such as In Vitro Fertilization, egg freezing and surrogacy. Out of these techniques, surrogacy is the most unique. This process is very personal to both the surrogate and the intended parents. The process produces many emotions as it involves bringing different people together to bring a child into the world.

In a conventional pregnancy with one man and one woman, a pregnancy can create feeling of joy and excitement. However, for some women, a pregnancy can create feelings of stress. A pregnancy via surrogate can make things more complicated due to multiple parties being involved in the pregnancy.

With a pregnancy via surrogacy, it is important that all parties involved form a partnership in which they all move towards the same goal. This requires support before, during and after the pregnancy. The surrogate mother as well as the doctor, the couple or the individual desiring a child, must be able to work well together in order to ensure that the surrogacy remains as smooth and as joyful as possible.

Intended parents and surrogates must keep in mind that the typical surrogacy process can be more than one year.

As a surrogate mother, you are giving a gift to the intended parents. You will help give someone their deepest desire – a desire to bring a child into the world. This experience can be quite emotional. Here are some tips for what to consider when deciding to become a surrogate mother:

Religious Views

Each religion has differing opinions on the morality of surrogacy. Surrogacy and Islam and surrogacy and Christianity may view the topic in different ways. This is also true of Judaism and other religions. Some religions accept modern science and technology and view it as the use of the intellect given to us by God to conceive a child. If you are unsure of your religion’s views on surrogacy, then you may need to consult with your religious leaders.

Society’s Surrogacy Stigma

If you decide to become a surrogate you may receive criticism from more than just your religious community. Other people may be reluctant to accept your choice while others may have outright oppositions to surrogacy. While the beliefs of those close to you are significant, in the end it is your own decision whether or not to become a surrogate. When thinking about becoming a surrogate, it is important to ask yourself this important question: “Do you want to carry a child for a couple or individual desiring one?” It is vital to think about your own beliefs without pressure from those surrounding you. You must make the choice that you have peace with.

Reasons To Become A Surrogate

Do you have specific reasons why you want to become a surrogate? While the most common motive may be financial incentives, for many women the decision to become a surrogate may is based on an intrinsic desire to help others in need. The intended parents have a deep desire to build a family and you can be their angel that helps bring a child into the world. You must also be aware that potential womb carriers with self-seeking motives are not usually chosen.

Forming A Relationship With The Intended Parent(s)

It is imperative that you have a positive relationship with the individual or couple that will be the parent(s) of the child you will carry in your womb for nine months. If you have already decided that you would like to become a surrogate but have yet to find a couple, then it would be best to search for one that fits you by contacting a surrogacy agency. If you are interested in international surrogacy, there are surrogacy agencies in India, Armenia, Georgia, Ukraine and other countries that can act as mediators between surrogates and intended parents. If you are fortunate enough to have already found a suitable couple or individual, then it is very important that you build a relationship prior to finalizing your decision to be the surrogate mother.

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A Surrogacy Story From Mary

surrogateThe name Mary F. Magness sounds like the name of a saint but she isn’t—not in the typical fashion. She does have saint-like qualities in that she offers the gift of parenthood to couples who are unable to conceive. Mary is a 31-year-old surrogate mother who lives in Santa Clarita, Calif., just north of Los Angeles.

 

Mary was 23 when she gave birth to her first child. After traveling and exploring, she was able to live out her dream of having her own family. She admits, “Although I was a bit younger than I planned on having them, I don’t regret it in the slightest.” By the time she considered becoming a surrogate mom, Mary had two daughters of her own.

“I was married with two young kids, just trying to keep everything together and balanced. I wasn’t really sure what the next step in my life would be once the girls were old enough for me to gain some of my own time back,” Mary shared.

Mary says she was fortunate enough to become friends with a woman who had been a surrogate twice. This friend remarked that she thought Mary would be perfect for the job, which caused the wheels inside Mary’s mind to turn: “I loved the idea of helping others and being able to do it from home. To be able to use a ‘talent’ I possessed was a cool thought.”

Upon learning about the procedures that take place during a surrogacy, Mary admits she worried about the hormone injections, and there was also self doubt about not being able to conceive and disappointing the intended parents in some way.

In vitro fertilization (IVF) is the most common method of conception for modern surrogate mothers. In the past, the surrogate mother used her own egg in combination with a donor’s sperm to conceive the child. In recent times the fertilized egg is placed inside the surrogate mother’s womb during a simple procedure that causes less pain than a pap smear. The surrogate mother is placed on bed rest for at least three days to allow the conception to take place. With this process, the child is in no way related biologically to the surrogate mother. Her womb is simply used as an incubator and first home for the baby.

Mary refers to herself as the baby’s first babysitter as well as “the womb for rent.” She adds, “I think people don’t quite understand being able to be pregnant and not feeling too attached to the baby. This was never an issue for me. I just explain to them that it was never mine in the first place, and I know that. When you go through the whole IVF process it really confirms that it’s completely different than having your own. I don’t think people get that.”

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Surrogacy – A Single Man Chooses Fatherhood Via Surrogacy

Louis DeFilippi and his daughter Anna enjoy Lincoln Center in New York. He decided to have a child with the help of surrogacy when he was in his late 50s.surrogacy

Louis DeFilippi does not care much about labels like “single dad.” If DeFilippi is a symbol of anything, it is simply that of independent thinking.

Growing up, he was the “white sheep” on his block in Queens, N.Y., the one who went on to earn a doctorate in biochemistry as some kids “were headed toward a career in crime,” he says.

When a real estate agent told him in 1979 that unmarried men didn’t buy houses, his rejoinder: “Meet the new single man.”

“I’ve always taken my own path,” says DeFilippi, 64. “I don’t follow the crowd. I don’t care what the crowd’s doing.”

Becoming a Father Later In Life

His maverick spirit flashed again when he became a first-time father seven years ago, The Chicago Tribune first reported.

DeFilippi pursued fatherhood on his own after the devastation of receiving a “Dear John” letter in 2003 from his second wife. She was leaving him and his long desire to become a dad remained unfulfilled.

“I decided to keep my life moving forward,” said DeFilippi, who was raised in a close-knit family with too many cousins to count. “I didn’t want my life to end at that point.”

DeFilippi, a consultant living in Palatine, Ill., sought help from a reproductive endocrinologist who DeFilippi said had never before worked with a single man. With DeFilippi’s sperm and a donor egg, an unrelated gestational surrogate carried the pregnancy, and the next chapter of DeFilippi’s life began in 2006 with the birth of his daughter.

“Having Anna is the best decision I ever made,” DeFilippi says of his now 7-year-old who starts second grade next month. “There is nothing more joyful than when I hear her say the word ‘Daddy.’ Nothing compares with that.”

Gestational Surrogates and Fatherhood?

With his nontraditional route to parenthood, DeFilippi is part of two trends. The number of single-father households grew from less than 300,000 in 1960 to more than 2.6 million in 2011, according to the Pew Research Center, while the number of children born to gestational surrogates rose from 738 in 2004 to 1,593 in 2011, according to the Society for Assisted Reproductive Technology.

Dr. Charles Coddington, the society’s president-elect, says that in his practice at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minn., he has not had a single man seek a child through surrogacy. “It’s not very common at all,” he said.

Most of his patients seeking the use of a gestational surrogate are married women who cannot carry a child because of illness, though he has seen same-sex couples and single women as well.

DeFilippi said surrogacy was the only option for him. Adoption would have involved “too much prying” and taken too long, he said. And the chances that a woman he would meet in his late 50s would want to have children, he joked, were “between none and zero.”

“I wanted to have a kid,” he recalled, someone to pass on his traditions to. “I figured this is the time I have to do it. Nobody tells me I can’t do something. I come up with the solution.”

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