Single Dads

Single Dads in Surrogacy

Single Dads. Everyone knows a story about a single mom who wanted a family so much that it didn’t matter that she didn’t have a partner. We seldom stop to think that there are men, on their own, who would give anything to be a Dad.

If we were to consider relationships we have encountered or parents of children we have known throughout our lives I’m certain we can all think of a model father in our minds.  A man for whom being a dad was an intrinsic part of his identity. I’ll admit that when I came to surrogacy it was new to me to consider working with a single dad.  Over the years I have had the privilege and honor of working with some outstanding men who have become absolutely incredible fathers.  There are several reasons a single man might choose surrogacy that maybe you haven’t considered.

Like women, there are men who yearn to become a parent.  We’ve had some very successful men who have not met their match in life, yet knew being a parent was a lifelong dream which they decided they didn’t need a partner to attain.  These men typically have a successful career that allows them to either take time to raise a child and continue working part-time or hire the needed help by way of a nanny to enable them to have a career and provide for their family (just as many single mothers do). And they get to be what they always longed to be…. A Dad.

I recall a unique story of one man who came to surrogacy after having a child with a genetic abnormality that would result in the child most likely passing away before he reached the age of 20.  This took a toll on the man’s marriage resulting, sadly, in divorce and him having custody of his son.  His reason for choosing the surrogate path was to have a second child to outlive him as well as give his son a sibling.  It was a beautiful story that touched my heart, showing me a glimpse of someone else’s perspective.

In another case, I worked with a single man from Spain whose entire family was SO involved in the process that there was a wonderfully amazing community that came together to help this lovely gentleman become the father he longed to be.  This has happened time and time again, I find it so incredibly touching each and every time it happens.  Many people have this view that only women are designed with the longing to parent and the yearning desire to have a child to care for in their lives. These men have shown that that is definitely not true.

This Father’s Day we want to pay tribute to those incredibly amazing dads that have blessed us by allowing us to be a part of their unique and special journey to fatherhood.  Let us realize that these men are choosing parenthood and going to the ends of the earth to attain that.  They must not be forgotten and deserve a beyond standard recognition.  May you all have the Happiest Father’s Day!

Location In Surrogacy

Is Location In Surrogacy Important?

A wonderful colleague of mine recently shared this post with her Intended Parents.  In it you will find valuable information on what the main focuses should be for seeking a match that is not centered on location.

Why Don’t You Have a Surrogate in My State?

Many intended parents share with me that location is the most important criteria in a surrogate.  I disagree.  Location can fall in the nice to have category.  The carrier’s outlook towards surrogacy and like-minded attitude with intended parents for the entire pregnancy is the most valuable criteria.  In my 20-years of industry experience, I have learned that an ideal surrogate possesses the following qualities:

  • Clear understanding of expectations, of medications, and of healthy habits
  • Commitment to meet the demands and requirements of ultrasound monitoring, blood testing and the time sensitivity involved in an In-Vitro Fertilization (IVF) cycle
  • Mature and responsible attitude to care for self and your baby
  • Awareness of what it means emotionally and physically to give up a baby that is not hers after birth

It is true that surrogates reap the rewards of financial remuneration for a surrogacy arrangement, however in my experience quality surrogates also possess caring and altruistic characteristics.  It is a combination of these attributes that make  a quality surrogate.

It is imperative to remember that not all states have equal surrogacy laws.  You want your candidate to reside in a state that has appropriate laws which align with your specific individual circumstances. Furthermore, travel to your doctor’s office twice during the surrogacy is the least expensive component and distance is not a factor that greatly impacts the overall cost of surrogacy  significantly.

IVF is one of those processes that force all of us to realize that we do not have control as there is no guarantee of pregnancy success despite following every protocol and medication to the tee.  Often to compensate for this lack of control, intended parents want a surrogate nearby so they can attend every doctor appointment and maintain close tabs on the surrogate.  However, the truth of the matter is that no one can monitors a surrogate 24 hours a day.  There must be a level of trust for this perfect stranger to carry your most prized asset. You must be willing to TRUST your surrogate, which is why it is so critical to find a candidate who understands her responsibilities, takes care of herself and the baby during pregnancy, and will honor her agreements and commitment to you.

Finally, I also ask my clients to consider what type of relationship they desire and expect with a surrogate during pregnancy and after birth. Is it ideal to have a surrogate in your neighborhood after birth? Or would a bit of distance after birth be more comfortable?

Mindy Berkson

Lotus Blossom Consulting, LLC

 

 

Termination In Surrogacy

Termination in Surrogacy

There is a big misconception of this termination in surrogacy.  I guess we can thank the media for that.  While there are the few negative stories and the negative publicity that is with everything.  Let us not forget the amazing, touching, heart bursting stories that keep the rest of us driven for an industry that is truly rewarding and amazing.

I’ve had some girls recently who signed up to become carriers thinking that Intended Parents might just change their mind and decide to terminate a pregnancy for no reason.  Education in surrogacy is vital to understanding where an Intended Parent is coming from.  First of all Intended Parents (IPs) are not turning to surrogacy just by chance.  This is a process that is thought out and planned for financially.  It doesn’t happen overnight.  It can take months and even years before an IP decides to begin their surrogate journey.  They don’t have the luxury others have who decide to have a baby and then boom, they are pregnant.  If you go back and read our article on why people use a gestational carrier you will find it is for many different reasons.

With that said parents aren’t going to put close to and sometimes more than $100,000 into having a child unless they didn’t want this child with everything in them.  I don’t know your background but let me be real for a moment and share that the child I adopted took a LOT out of my household.  I wouldn’t have gone to the ends of the earth to make it happen if I didn’t want her with every breath in me.

The reason we discuss termination in surrogacy is for the unlikely chance that a genetic abnormality is found during pregnancy.  This is tough and not something we take lightly.  Nobody wants to have this conversation.  Nobody wants to have to make this heart-wrenching decision.  However; when we are dealing with a surrogacy arrangement and not your everyday “we’re pregnant” situation we have to have these very difficult conversations from the beginning.  If this bridge has to be crossed it’s imperative we find out from the beginning that everyone is on the same page.

As a surrogate this is the unfortunate subject that turns many away.  Termination in surrogacy is the toughest part about being a carrier of someone else’s child.  It is something that needs to be thought about and determined before a journey begins and also before a match can be made.

Before Becoming A Surrogate

What To Consider Before Becoming A Surrogate

If you are considering becoming a surrogate and don’t know where to start let’s first consider the basic criteria important for any carrier.  Typically you need to be between the ages of 21-40 however some states do not have a law against a surrogate being 19 or 20.  In the same regards there are a FEW agencies that will accept surrogates over the age of 40 under some circumstances.  The laws are based on where the surrogate is located and gives birth.  There are a few unfriendly states for surrogacy so you also need to be located in a state were surrogacy is legal no matter what the age.

Being physically fit is not a requirement however the BMI is a factor considered for surrogacy.  Clinics are held to a standard by the FDA and nobody wants to put a person in danger or risk for complications.  Therefore a BMI over 30 is not favorable.  If you don’t know what your BMI is, there are plenty of calculators online to help you determine if you just search BMI calculator and type in your height and weight. It is important when considering becoming a carrier for someone’s child that you are healthy which includes being a NON-smoker and being FREE of sexually transmitted diseases.  Many women have been defensive about this stating they have had children with a BMI over 30 and while this is true we must realize that IVF is used in surrogacy which puts a higher BMI at risk for several reasons.  Because hormones are being used weight could increase prior to pregnancy as well as blood pressure, etc.  In most cases IPs want to transfer more than 1 embryo which again increases risk for Gestational Diabetes if you start the pregnancy off a little heavier as well as High Blood Pressure and/or Pre-eclampsia.  No doctor, IP or consultant/agency is willing to purposely put someone at risk so guidelines are set in place to protect the carriers and unborn children for these reasons.

The last few items in the basic criteria are not relying on government assistance and being able to pass a background check.  Here’s the thing about IVF; it is not a 100% sure bet you will become pregnant after an embryo transfer.  Intended Parents are taking a risk and do not need a surrogate who is putting all her eggs in one basket as far as an income source.  They need someone stable who can support themselves and aren’t fully relying on the surrogacy journey for their income.  No surrogate should look to surrogacy as their main source of income or as their means to support their family.  This will only add unneeded stress to all parties.  A clean background check is just a given as you are being entrusted by Intended Parents with the life of their child.

Take into consideration that while all items above might be met, all carriers must pass a psychological evaluation as well.  This is vital in this process as it is not only important the surrogate be stable financially and able to provide for herself but MOST importantly she must be mentally stable to endure a surrogate journey.

Being able to travel in some cases is important.  You might not be matched with a local couple that will require you to travel for medical clearance as well as embryo transfer.  It’s important that a surrogate have family or friend support in order to do this.  Your flexibility will be vital to a successful journey as there are many moving pieces that all must fit together in order to have the best chances of success for the IPs.

Last but certainly not least is a surrogate’s accountability and reliability plays a HUGE part in a successful journey.  It is absolutely imperative that a carrier understand what all is expected of her prior to making the commitment to become a surrogate mom.  People are counting on you to do your part and be physically, emotionally and mentally ready to endure all that is needed for the best of success.  No matter who you work with it is extremely important that you have realistic expectations set from the beginning.

We hope this helps clarify a few things on what to consider before becoming a surrogate so that you will hopefully have a very successful journey.  As always we wish you the absolute BEST of success in your unique life-changing journey!

Compensation From Surrogacy

Compensation From Surrogacy

We want to be clear here with this post – the number one reason most surro-moms choose to be surrogates is not because of compensation from surrogacy. It’s to give and experience the joy another family has when they realize they can finally make their dreams of having a family a reality.

The average surrogate is paid $25,000 to $60,000. That’s a lot of money that can be put toward the financial goals you may have.  Let’s take a look at 4 ways you might use the compensation from a surrogate journey:

1) Invest for the Future

Are you currently putting money toward any retirement plans you have? If not, you might want to consider using a percentage of your compensation to invest in your future.

Your options could include a workplace retirement plan such as a 401(k), an Individual Retirement Account (IRA) that anyone can open, or perhaps a regular investment account you have with your spouse.

Investing for the future doesn’t have to mean retirement, either. If you have children of your own (as many surrogates do), have you thought about helping your child fund their college expenses? You could open a custodial plan for them and invest the money there as well.

2) Invest in Yourself

Are you a stay-at-home-mom who wants to get back into the workforce after your surrogacy is complete? You might want to think about investing in yourself in the form of education.

You don’t necessarily need to go back to college to get a degree, but you could look into getting certifications or taking courses online. Just about every topic is available to study – even film, photography, graphic design, and animation to name a few.

Or, maybe you’ve discovered you love a certain hobby and want to monetize it. Think about educating yourself on running a home-based business. You could buy the supplies you need to open a shop on Etsy or sell locally. If spending time with family while still earning an income is a priority for you, this is a great way to do it.

3) Fund Your Savings Goals

It’s important to think about your larger savings goals – the ones that might seem impossible to complete.

For example, saving for a down payment on a house isn’t easy. It’s recommended to have 10% of a home’s purchase price saved up. If you’re looking at a house that costs $250,000, you’re looking at a $25,000 down payment. That can be overwhelming to stomach.

$25,000 to $60,000 can go a long way toward making your own dreams a reality, especially if you want to buy a house, need a more reliable vehicle for your family, or just want the financial security to stay at home with your kids.

4) Give Back

If you’re like most surrogates, you didn’t enter into surrogacy with money on your mind. You did it because you wanted to take part in creating a miracle.

That’s why we mention giving back – if you don’t need the money, consider donating it to your favorite charitable cause. You’ve already made a great difference in the world, why not continue to spread the love?

When you receive a single large payment, whether it be from an inheritance, a bonus, or surrogacy, you should look at the big picture. It’s tempting to think about all the things you could buy with that amount of money, but it’s responsible to think about how to use it wisely!

Again, we want to emphasize that money isn’t the end goal surrogates should be working toward. All of our surrogate mothers are overjoyed when they can help make dreams come true for couples who want children. In fact, most of them would do it for free. We are simply giving surrogates guidance on how they might choose to spend their compensation.

What Is Gestational Surrogacy

What Is Gestational Surrogacy

When women receive the difficult news that they will be unable to have a child in some cases their doctor may suggest gestational surrogacy. The common response to this suggestion is often, “What is gestational surrogacy?”

Gestational surrogacy is when an egg is taken from the intended mother and inseminated by the intended father and then the fertilized egg is implanted in and carried until birth by the gestational surrogate.  Sometimes anonymous donor egg and or sperm can be used to create the embryo as well.

There are many reasons that a woman may need a gestational surrogate to carry her child until birth. The most common reason is that the biological mother may have uterine complications precluding her from being able to carry a child. In this case the answer to “What is gestational surrogacy?” is a relief for many couples who are physically unable to have a child.

You may still be asking yourself, “What is gestational surrogacy and what are the benefits of becoming a surrogate?” There are many benefits to becoming a gestational surrogate. The most obvious benefit is that a surrogate has the opportunity to give the gift of a biological child to a family that otherwise would be unable to have a biological child.

There is also a financial component that is extremely beneficial to the gestational surrogate. Carrying out a gestational surrogacy can lead to an income of tens of thousands of dollars for the woman who decides to become a surrogate. So along with bringing so much joy to the family and helping to bring a child into the world, the gestational surrogate also can make her own life more financially comfortable.

Once a woman decides to carry out a gestational surrogacy her family and friends may ask her, “What is gestational surrogacy?” While it is a process that is becoming more common and more accepted some people still have questions on the process. An easy way for some families to think about it is that a couple that is physically unable to have children have a child but then they need a third party to carry the child until the day of their birth.

Whether or not the surrogate stays involved in the child’s life is a decision the family typically makes. In most cases the family and surrogate remain friends. There is often a special bond between the child and the surrogate because the surrogate took a significant role in bringing the child into the world. The parents of the child will be forever grateful.

If you would like more information about becoming a surrogate mother or about surrogacy in general, please contact Surrogates Across America.

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BMI In Surrogacy

BMI in Surrogacy

BMI in Surrogacy is such an aggravation for many women who so badly want to be a surrogate but don’t fit into the requirements of having a BMI at 30 or less. Agencies get blamed and lashed out at for this but the truth is it is the discretion of the clinic. Nobody wants the liability of approving a surrogate whose BMI is over the limit. The higher BMI puts the surrogate at an increased risk for Gestational Diabetes, high blood pressure, pre-eclampsia, and a host of other complications that wouldn’t benefit the baby or the surrogate. All parties involved are not willing to take that sort of risk and put someone’s life endanger.

With that said, I’ve had several requests and input from other surrogate moms including myself who needed to shed weight in a healthy way. We are by ALL means not medical doctors so speaking with a medical doctor IS advised before beginning ANY health program or restrictive diet.

We’ve read numerous emails, articles, books, and listened to testimonials from other surrogate moms about what works and what does not. Weight is something many struggle with and if you struggle it can be a HUGE frustration that many times even leads to depression. Even for those that have no desire to become a surrogate but maybe need or want to lose weight for other reasons, we hope you find this beneficial and helpful.

Many people in our country struggle with food allergies or sensitivities they didn’t know they had. Some may never notice but their weight could be the indicator that they have an allergy or intolerance to a particular food/drink. The best way to find out if you suffer from food allergies is to eliminate it and see if anything changes. Above everything you read, you MUST learn to read your own body and LISTEN to it! It will actually speak to you if you pay attention. Below is a list of 6 items to avoid completely. Try it for 4 weeks and see if you notice a difference in either the way you feel, your skin or your weight.

Foods to avoid completely for those concerned with BMI in Surrogacy

ALCOHOL

DAIRY

CRUNCHY SNACKS

BREAD

PASTA

SUGAR

Further explanation and food suggestions:

Dairy (this does NOT include eggs! Eggs are NOT a dairy! Don’t get confused. It’s a chicken! Eat as MANY as you want but cook in olive oil, not butter and don’t add cheese!!)

Crunchy Snacks – (ie, chips, pretzels, goldfish, snacks in general that are crispy.) Snacks you can have are UNLIMITED amounts of fresh fruit with NO sugar added. Unlimited amounts of nuts of any kind as long as you have no nut allergy

Bread – – Unless you are milling the wheat and baking flour tortillas with oil water and salt, avoid altogether for now and add back slowly once desired weight is attained. Everything in moderation remember.

PASTA (eat as much brown rice as you want but NO pasta at all until desired weight is attained and then slowly introduce back into diet eating in moderation only.)

When cooking brown rice, add enough water (1/2 cup more than what you would use for white rice. Do NOT buy instant! Cook longer than white rice usually by adding at least 20 minutes but monitor closely. Make sure you cook it all the way and don’t use butter. Either flavor with oil, salt and pepper or you can add cooked egg, onions, and soy sauce for basic fried rice. If you like fried rice, you can pretty much eat it every night for dinner adding broiled chicken, mushrooms, onions, fried eggs, soy sauce, any vegetables you want, etc.

What you can eat…. As many vegetables and fruit as you want. When flavoring veggies just don’t use dairy (no butter.) Use olive oil, salt, pepper, garlic or any other seasonings but no dressings. Make sure all fruit is washed well and eaten without additives or sugar flavoring of any kind. Fruits should be eaten in the natural state and no canned fruits should be eaten. Veggies should be fresh or frozen. Little to NO canned unless desperate and it’s all you have. You can eat meats but they should not be processed. Eat as much in the natural state as you can. Seasoning and grilling, broiling or baking in the oven is best. If you have a large amount of weight to lose cut out Sausage at first and add as the weight comes off. Stick to lean meats and fish like tilapia, salmon or ANY type of fish that you can season and broil, bake or cook without breading. Don’t eat ANYTHING fried. If you have an intolerance to meat, eat fish and if you can’t eat fish you could have dry beans. These have to be soaked and cooked properly. All that can be researched via the internet.

We hope this helps those trying to shed pounds and those who are above the guidelines for BMI in surrogacy. It has been proven effective for a number of people we know and hope it continues to be proven affective for others. Drink only water, unsweetened tea and coffee with no sweeteners. You can have juice IF you use a juicer or drink Simply orange that has no sugar added and is only fresh squeezed oranges.

If you would like more information about becoming a surrogate mother or about surrogacy in general, please contact Surrogates Across America.

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5 Reasons Why People Consider Gestational Surrogacy

5 Reasons Why People Consider Gestational Surrogacy

Have you wondered who actually benefits from gestational surrogacy, or why people look to it as a solution to pregnancy?

Unfortunately, many couples (and singles) can’t have children on their own. Whether due to age, infertility, medical complications, or sexual preferences in partners, quite a few people turn to gestational surrogacy to provide them with the family they’ve always dreamed of.

We’re going to cover 5 reasons why couples (and individuals) consider gestational surrogacy to give you a better idea of who can benefit from it.

Couples with Medical Complications – The most common reason couples choose gestational surrogacy

Sadly, there are many medical conditions that make pregnancy difficult or impossible. In other cases, being pregnant can put the woman’s or unborn child’s life at risk. Gestational surrogacy eliminates some of that risk and worry as surrogates must pass a health exam in order to qualify.

Couples Suffering from Infertility

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, infertility affects around 11% of women ages 15 to 44. There is a rapid decrease every year past the age of 30 for a woman. It’s very common challenge that many couples face, and it can be an extremely emotional process to go through.

When infertility treatments don’t help, couples may choose gestational surrogacy, as there’s a higher chance of pregnancy. If women experience trouble staying pregnant or becoming pregnant, then gestational surrogacy also makes sense.

Gay Couples

Another very common situation where gestational surrogacy is used is for gay couples who need a surrogate mother to carry their child. Sperm is typically used from one father in conjunction with an anonymous or known egg donor.

Additionally, surrogacy in the United States is a solution for international gay couples who aren’t given the option of surrogacy in their home country.

Single Males (and Females)

We’ve also seen cases where single males who are older decide they want a family. They can choose gestational surrogacy for the same basic reason as gay couples – they need the help of a surrogate to carry the baby, and they need an egg donor.

Gestational surrogacy makes it possible for these men to have a baby that is genetically tied to them. They can also maintain a close friendship with the surrogate mother as well.

Additionally, there are single females out there who have a strong desire to have children, but do not have (or choose not to have) a partner. They can choose to have a surrogate mother carry their children and use a sperm donor to make their ideal family a reality. In some cases singles can get discriminated against due to being single or based on age which disqualifies them from adoption but is not a disqualifying factor for surrogacy. Many people don’t realize that like children who are available to be adopted, there are also embryo available as well for adoption.

Older Couples

The Office on Women’s Health reports that 20% of women are having their first child at age 35 or later. Once you are past age 35, from a medical standpoint you’re of “advanced maternal age.” Your pregnancy can be risky and you simply aren’t as fertile as you were in your 20s.

A few of the reasons women have been delaying pregnancy include their career, their education, marrying later, and wanting to be financially secure.

Regardless of the reason, couples are finding one solution to pregnancy later in life to be gestational surrogacy. It carries less risk and chance of complications. Those that decide they want children later in life should be offered the opportunity to have them.

How You Can Benefit or Help

The main point of choosing gestational surrogacy is to have a child that’s genetically related to you. In all of these cases, the intended parents contribute their own eggs or sperm. While adoption is always an option, some individuals want children who are genetically their own. Gestational surrogacy offers them that option.

It’s a shame that there are so many people out there who want to have children, but can’t. But you can help! If you’re interested in helping to create a family for a couple who can’t conceive, then please reach out to us by filling out our application to become a surrogate mother.

Likewise, if you’re a couple looking for a consultant that has your best interests at heart, then please contact us. We want to help you have the family you’ve always wanted.

If you would like more information about becoming a surrogate mother or about surrogacy in general, please contact Surrogates Across America.

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Why Due Diligence Is Important In Surrogacy

Lately, the news has been covering stories of surrogacy ending badly. There have been many tragic, heartbreaking tales surfacing of surrogacies gone wrong. Babies are being abandoned or fought over, and families and friendships are being ruined.

However, as with the case of any news reports, the negativity is always going to outweigh the positivity. For that reason, we want to shine the light on how it’s possible to have an amazing surrogacy experience.

It all starts with due diligence. It’s no secret that surrogacy is not well-regulated in many foreign countries, and that attracts couples and individuals who otherwise wouldn’t be able to go through with surrogacy.

While we’re all for surrogacy being an option to those who need it, there are good ways and bad ways of going about the process. Let’s take a look at the right way to go about your surrogacy journey.

What Makes a Good Surrogacy Agency

Transparency and authenticity are extremely important when dealing with a surrogacy agency – especially when a precious life depends on it. No child should be subjected to abuse and neglect after being born.

Surrogates Across America aims to be transparent every step of the way. We never hide information from either party, we answer any questions you may have, and we seek to educate the individuals we help. We know that there’s a lot of misinformation out there when it comes to gestational surrogacy, and we want to make sure you’re properly informed!

Surrogacy requires tremendous effort on behalf of all parties involved. We only wish to see both parties happy and bursting with gratitude at the end of their journey together.

To ensure a smooth process, we have a thorough screening procedure in place. If you’re interested in applying to be a surrogate with us, you fill out an application, and then we review it.

If we think you’re a great candidate based off your application, we will email you a profile to fill out. Once that’s complete, we’ll then schedule an initial phone call with you to discuss your profile.

We do our absolute best in matching our surrogates with intended parents. The journey of surrogacy is a long and meaningful one – it’s essential that you’re paired up with those you can share the highs and lows with as well as fitting with your family dynamics and values.

Once a match is made, we have the surrogate and intended parents get on the phone or Skype with each other to make sure all are comfortable and in agreement on what will happen during the surrogacy arrangement, pregnancy and after.

This is where rules and regulations come into play. It’s not a fun topic to discuss, but should any complications arise during the pregnancy, there must be an agreement between both parties as to what actions should be taken in certain situations.

Unfortunately, no one likes to think of the worst happening, but in some cases, it does. That’s why it’s critical to discuss these issues beforehand.

Once an agreement is reached, the screening process goes a step further: we require that all individuals involved go through a criminal background check, a psychological evaluation, a medical evaluation, and we will request medical records to be reviewed by the perspective clinic involved. This is done for the safety and protection of both parties.

Don’t Take Shortcuts with Surrogacy

For the reasons listed above, we strongly urge intended parents and surrogates to go through a reputable third party. Finding someone online on a forum, or recruiting a friend, can lead to heartbreak. Yes, it works out favorably for some families, but others come to regret their decisions.

It’s upsetting to see so many stories circulating about surrogacy gone wrong when there are laws in place in many states (here in the US) for a reason. While we understand how much starting a family means to couples, cutting corners to make it happen often isn’t the best move.

If you’re thinking about gestational surrogacy, please don’t let these stories taint your view of the industry. We care deeply about all of our wonderful surrogate mothers who volunteer out of the goodness of their hearts to help create families, and we take great care in making sure our intended parents have the utmost faith and trust in us and their surrogates.


If you would like more information about becoming a surrogate mother or about surrogacy in general, please contact Surrogates Across America.

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The Purpose Of A Gestational Surrogate

The Purpose of a Gestational Surrogate, and How You Can Become One

Have you ever wondered what is involved in the process of becoming a gestational surrogate, or how they’re different from traditional surrogates? If so, you’re not alone. The terms can be a little confusing!

We’re going to set the record straight for you today. Let’s walk through exactly what the process is for gestational surrogacy and how it differs from traditional surrogacy. This will also explain the purpose of a gestational surrogate and how you can become one.

Gestational Surrogates vs. Traditional Surrogates

Traditional surrogacy involves the surrogate being artificially inseminated with the father’s sperm, paired with her own egg. The surrogate is therefore the biological mother of the child.

Gestational surrogacy is different in that the surrogate is simply a carrier – they don’t have any biological ties with the child. The process involves In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) in which an egg and sperm from the intended parents is combined to form an embryo. The embryo is then transferred to the gestational surrogate.

The embryo can also contain a donor egg or donor sperm in certain cases, such as a single father/mother or gay couple wanting to start a family. Donor egg or sperm is also used in the event of a completely infertile couple, advanced maternal age or in a case where some genetic disorders want to be avoided.

The Purpose of Gestational Surrogates

Gestational surrogates help couples who are unable to conceive to start a family genetically related to them. Those interested in gestational surrogacy are typically couples where the woman is unable to give birth or conceive for medical reasons or advanced maternal age, gay couples wanting to have a biological tie, single men wanting a family, or single women unable to give birth.

There is a huge need for gestational surrogacy as infertility rates are rising. International couples also choose to go the surrogacy route in the US since the laws are more favorable and success rates are much higher than other countries.

Gestational surrogates are often referred to by intended parents as angels. They sacrifice months of their lives, and their bodies, in order to give them the gift of a child.

Reasons to Consider Becoming a Gestational Surrogate

First and foremost, the number one reason most women choose to become surrogates is because they want to help others. While gestational surrogates are compensated, money isn’t their primary motivation.

 

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